What makes something a sin, exactly? I mean…I see a lot of people in church who are able to hold positions in leadership and I know for sure that they are “shacking” as my pastor calls it. Is that a sin or not? I can’t actually find a scripture that talks about it. Plus, you don’t have to live with someone to have sex outside of marriage. The bible definitely talks about that and I can even name preachers who have sex outside of marriage. Is there even a point to following rules and commandments when I see soooooo many people who do whatever they want and God still seems to use them? Jesus did die so we could be forgiven. Help me, help me and everyone else I know.
Many people have felt and feel the same as you. They have asked the same questions, given some of the inconsistencies that we see within churches. It sounds like these inconsistencies are having an effect on you. People will always disappoint YOU when YOU have MISPLACED your expectations in them. But it works the opposite way as well. You have and will disappoint others and mess up. Yeah, we humans can sometimes suck. This is why I suggest you take your eyes off of these people. Don’t focus on their deeds.
Sin is disobeying God’s laws. It’s knowing to do right but failing to do so (James 4:17 and Romans 14:23). People within a romantic relationship who “live together” is a slippery slope; however the sole act of “living together” is not a sin.
Is there a point to following rules and commandments? YES! There is much to benefit from when we follow God’s rules and YES there is much we will suffer when we do not. God’s rules protect and benefit us. We should follow them whether we understand them or not. Obey first and seek understanding as you obey. The more you obey, the more you will understand. The less you obey, the more blind you will become; and spiritual blindness just makes you dumb. You don’t want that; trust me. Rebelling against God, your parents or anyone else around who is trying to tell you what’s right will only hurt you. You need these imperfect people because you don’t know everything about God.
All of the questions floating around in your heart and all of the things that you are struggling with within is because your faith in GOD is being tested. Your faith is weak right now. But there is HOPE and a REMEDY. If you apply the remedy, there is a better, stronger, bigger you waiting on the other side. Whoop Whoop!
The Remedy: Learn who God, Jesus and the Holy Ghost are…for yourself. Learn what they did and why they did it…for
yourself. This is God’s call to you right now. He wants you to get to know Him personally.
In short, God made us and had a relationship with us. We sinned. The sin caused us to be spiritually separated from God. Because God loves us and desires to be in a relationship with us, He sent His son Jesus to die so that we would have the choice to return back to God to have a relationship with Him. Jesus physically went to heaven and sent back the Holy Ghost to live in us, help, and teach us how to live in a way that will keep us close to God. God wants to be with us. God wants to be in a relationship with YOU! So, you my friend just have to answer the call of God to get to know Him better.
How? The most important factor in getting to know someone is spending time with them, right? Start with giving God time each morning. My motto is start with 5 minutes of prayer. These 5 little minutes will change your life. Go to church. Focus on the message, not the messenger. Your expectation is coming from God and not the person. One reason not to focus on the messenger is because God will speak through anyone or anything. He talked through a donkey and some burning bushes. So He can use whoever and whatever he wants to send you a message. When you are home, read about what you heard in the bible so you can know for yourself. As your faith gets stronger, I guarantee all of those questions you posed in this letter will become obsolete. They won’t matter and you won’t care one iota…because you will be busy enjoying this wonderful God Father, Son and Holy Ghost you have. I’m so excited for you!
May God bless you with Wisdom, Knowledge and Understanding!
Joy to the World