What once was a title to be had in shame is now raised on a banner in hero status and that title is being a single mother. Yasira Sonnier knows all too well the tale of being a single mom. Her first marriage resulted in divorce and she found herself being a single mother of two young boys. She found herself being a college graduate without work experience because she was a stay at home wife and mother.
At the age of 28 her first job paid seven dollars per hour. To make budget for bills and other finances Yasira found a second job that paid eleven dollars per hour. Their father was active in their lives, but she was the primary caretaker and desperately wanted to be all things to her children. She struggled with not being enough for her children. The new responsibility of providing for her own home as well as her children was a curve ball of emotional distress. She wasn’t prepared.
Not knowing where to turn, she decided to run from the discomfort. She and her children moved around bouncing from Texas to New York and North Carolina. She moved around hoping each time things would get better and it would be a come up, but things only seemed to get worse. She didn’t have the assistance from a community of family or friends for her children and lost employment because of absences due to caring for her children. She recalls one instance when she and the boys were all ill with the flu and had to be hospitalized.
Eventually Yasira found herself moving back to Houston,Texas and slowly piecing her life back together. She was able to create a family through friends and began attending Lakewood Church with senior pastor Joel Osteen. “Joel and Victoria say give them a year of your life and they will change everything. I was able to commit to God and work hard,” said Yasira.
After some time she rejoined the dating scene but was careful not to bring anyone around her children and home if it were not serious. After some time she befriended a gentleman and as a year passed, their relationship blossomed. Yasira observed his actions and how he cared for her children. She felt that he cared for them as if they were his own. He even waited for her children to be comfortable with their relationship before asking to marry her. They have been married for two years now.
She experienced quite a few challenges trying to tackle life on her own and harnessing emotions within. Doing so only caused her to be withdrawn from the world. Once she began to let go and welcome others into her life, God was able to heal her heart from hurt and she was able to love again. She strives now to share her testimony with other women to encourage them during those rough moments that she knows all too well.
Yasira has done different workshops for women in her community to teach various topics, from the importance of having a spiritual relationship with God and self love to managing finances and sharing about single parenting. She helps them find resources for different services that they need and encourages them to continue to move forward with their lives as they experience the ups and downs of being a single mother. She is currently working on a how to book for single moms to share many of these tips from her workshops and will soon be leading a group for single mothers at her church.
Yasira’s advice to women who are in a difficult season of their lives and don’t see their way out is to pray and trust that God has a way of timing everything. You may never know the reason why but later God will reveal why he allowed things to work out the way that they did.